To Get Over Her/Him

When a person feels bad more than a year after the break up, it's because he or she has spent the past year reliving the relationship. This comes in the form of trying to figure out exactly what went wrong, fuelled by the inaccurate belief that if you could just figure it out, then you could let go or even make everything right.
The reality is that spending so much time trying to figure out what went wrong keeps you attached and prevents you from moving on. Relationships are messy things, and many times we can never really know exactly what went wrong.
Our brains are very obedient at times. If you keep asking your brain to figure out what you did wrong, it's going to search for all kinds of reasons, and you are going to wind up feeling like a failure.
Truth is the relationship failed, you didn't.
If you handle yourself well, feel good about your behaviour and choices, and even use what you learnt in other relationships, then you are successful.
You need to create an exit door in your heart and then show this person, and the pain and hurt, right out the door. Here's a fun little trick to help show your partner the exit door of your heart:
Imagine a picture of the relationship in your mind. It feels like it's right out in front of you, a few inches from your face and difficult to see past. Take that picture and imagine moving it off to the side of you, out of view. Feels better, doesn't it?

courtesy: MAG The Weekly